We want our 25th anniversary to be epic

Dear Pastor,

My husband and I will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary next year, and we are trying to determine whether we should go for a second honeymoon.

We have a pair of 22-year-old twins who have been talking about having a big dinner for us with relatives and friends. My husband and I have been thinking that we should get away and have a time for ourselves in one of the islands. We have friends who have visited Panama and they enjoyed it to the max. I can speak a little Spanish, but folks who have gone there told me that even if I could not say a sentence in Spanish, that would not prevent us from having a grand time.

A second honeymoon will do us well. Before we leave, we plan to renew our wedding vows. We are also thinking that for our second honeymoon, we could go on a cruise. We are not young any more, but we feel young in heart. My hubby and I have good jobs and we do not waste money. I wonder if you can give us some suggestions.

M.J.

Dear M.J.,

I am happy to know that you have had a very happy married life and I hope that you will have many more.

You should be commended for the 25 years of togetherness. Some people get married and do not even last a year together. A little fuss among themselves and they are thinking about getting a divorce. But when people genuinely love each other, they try to deepen the relationship.

Your husband and you have two children and they suggested that to celebrate your 25th anniversary, they would have a party for you. I would say that you should not try to stop them from doing so. They could have an anniversary party and invite your relatives and close friends. They will be spending their own money, so allow them to go ahead. Immediately after they have had the party, your husband and you should take off for your second honeymoon.

You should see the dinner party from your children as a good gift to you and your husband. But going on a trip, the two of you would have many hours together. Before you go, you should plan to do the things that you did 25 years ago, and making love together should be sweeter.

Well, that is how I see it, so start planning. After you have returned, I will be glad to hear from you.

Pastor